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You are exactly what they're looking for.

You are exactly what they're looking for.

What you have and who you are is exactly what someone is looking for. Whether it's romantically, in friendship, or in business, you are just right to someone just as you are, and they've been looking for you. 

I'm the type of person to try to perfect every single detail of something before I share it, whether it's a video, a new product, or an email newsletter. And in the past, I had tried for so long to perfect that thing, that I never ended up posting it or creating it - I had talked myself out of it by overanalyzing every minute detail. But if I had removed that pressure to be perfect and just created for the sake of creating, who knows where it would have led? 

Our ideas don't need to be in their "perfect" form in order for us to share them. The beautiful thing about life is that we're always learning and evolving, and improving our skills. Things will never be perfect: things are how we view them at that time. What we once viewed as our best last year is something that we're improving on this year. At times when we think we have something made perfectly, we're humbled by gaining new insights and experiences over time. There were designs I made years ago that I look back on now with more knowledge, seeing how something should have been done more efficiently. But I wouldn't have that knowledge now if I didn't remove the fear of being imperfect - I was finally able to accept myself and my work for what it was in the moment. 

There are people who love who you are right now: they see your gifts and the person you are at your core. And by you, yourself, thinking you need to be perfect in order to receive any love from them, you're closing yourself off from what you deserve. You're overanalyzing a situation and striving for perfection that doesn't exist, while denying yourself what your heart truly wants. If it's a work situation where you see a job opening that's exactly what you want or dream of, but you're telling yourself you could never get that job and, in so doing, you refuse to apply, you've made that decision for them. You told the Universe that you weren't deserving of that job position. So now they'll show that opportunity to a person who knows they're deserving, in turn only showing you things you think you're deserving of. If you're not open to opportunities that allow you to grow and strengthen your confidence in yourself, the Universe is going to move onto the next person. But when you are open, even if it's just a small amount of confidence you have mixed with a lot of hope, the Universe will start to present you with ideas, people, and opportunities that align with that. So if it's a job you want to apply for but you're not 100% sure, send the application anyway just to make yourself known and to put your skills out there. Whether you're chosen for that job position or not, you've shown the Universe that you're open and willing to receive. 

There have been times when I really wanted my jewelry to be in certain stores, but I talked myself out of it for months. When I finally sent the email, they said they weren't taking any more jewelry artists. That meant at one point they were taking new artists, which was probably those months ago when I was talking myself out of it. So again, because I thought my work had to be perfect and I was doubting my skills, the opportunity went to someone who was fearless and confident in their work. Sometimes I wouldn't reach out to retail stores because they didn't carry the same type of jewelry that I made. I was afraid that my jewelry just wouldn't fit, that there wasn't any space for me. But if I re-framed that thought as: "My jewelry is so unique that they haven't found someone like me yet" I would be able to see the specialty of my work and be able to build confidence in myself. Often times when you can't find people like yourself out there - whether it be for your products or ideas - that's all the more reason to express yourself and be loud about it. Chances are, people are looking for you but just haven't found you yet. It takes building confidence in yourself - even if it's a small seed at first - and making those decisions, despite the fear. You don't have to have all the skills or know everything to be acknowledged or accepted, you just need to be confident and open enough to receive. 

So you should keep doing what you have to do each day to express yourself and give yourself the chance you deserve to be seen for your natural skills. There will never be a perfect time or perfect circumstances to make a decision: you'll be waiting your entire life for that. Do what you can today with what you have right now, and continue to build on it. Continue to be yourself and live that way authentically. You never know what doors will open for you. 

 

- JS

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